Happy Valentine's Day! Even on this day of love, it's not always how it is pictured. Sometimes relationships come to a deep hole, and if we learn to fix these broken relationships, it helps bring ease and peace to the body and soul. Here are some ways to help mend or create healthy relationships with friends, partners, and family members.
See both sides
When relationships start to fall apart it builds stress for both sides. Both might feel a sense of anger, sadness, disappointment, or even fear as a result of the situation. Although these feelings will be bottled up inside you, learn to be mindful of the other side's feelings too. Ask yourself 'How are they feeling right now?' and 'Will they be okay?'
As the relationship comes to any disputes, each side has their own perspective and expectations. These are a result of beliefs and past experiences. If you really know the other member, you can picture the conflict from their point of view. When you learn to see things from their perspective, it gives you a more clear understanding to how/why they are handling the situation thus far.
Take Responsibility for Your Part
If each person does not take responsibility of their part in the relationship, then things won't get better. Learn to not blame or criticize one another for all the wrongdoings, but rather focus and hone in on what caused this situation.
Even though the situation may be clear that one side had more fault than the other, one can still step back and think what led up to this point? When you build a mentality of finding out WHAT was the cause of the issue, rather than WHO's fault it was, this will bring a sense of relief and aid you with fixing that broken relationship.
Make Amends Where Appropriate
Sometimes all it takes is to make amends. Try an apology or even a small gesture, done from the heart of course, can go a long way towards creating a healthy relationship.
Decide what needs to be done to reconcile the problem. What does the other person need? Would forgiveness, acceptance, or appreciation help? Use your intuition to determine what would help to create a healthy relationship.
Communicate Effectively
The last part to help improve a broken relationship is learning to communicate effectively. When both of you sit down and discuss how you feel with honesty and sincerity, the tensions lessens and you've begun to rebuild the relationship.
Notice how I said communicate effectively. This is not the time to continue blame or see who can make the other feel worse. Go into this conversation with an open-mind, with the thought of fixing the situation only in your mind. Relax and calm down. Then you are able to share how you truly feel and let the other person know the reasons for your actions.
And to those that are just perfectly happy with everything. Happy Valentine's Day once again.
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